Now that we covered growing as a leader, we’re going to cover emotional IQ and healthy thought patterns.
Emotional IQ is one of the major attributes that all high level Executives have in common. It’s what I’ve admired in people whom I’ve modeled after.
I develop this skill of emotional IQ, and healthy thought pattern when I was overcoming schizophrenia. I had to dispute between what was reality, and what was a delusion. When things where a delusion emotions were high. I ran the risk of behaving poorly, and letting people know I had schizophrenia.
Just like leaders can be made, so can emotional IQ people, and healthy thought patterns can save our Mental Health.
When we have poor emotional IQ we fall apart when we’re faced with difficulties.
Everyone knows the knee-jerk liberal that crumbles over crisis. They are very self destructive when there’s injustices. They cause harm to innocent people because something wasn’t fair.
Here’s how we develop emotional IQ, and healthy thought patterns.
First we have to identify the problem, and how it makes us feel. Is it sad, angry or scared? For most people these initial feelings are how we behave. This is where people with poor emotional IQ fail, and fly off the handle. But before we act on our emotions we must rationalize.
We rationalize by thinking through every aspect of the situation. We basically dispute our emotions, and feeling toward the situation. Is this all bad? Is there any good parts. Can I live with the outcome? Can I defer a direct hit. How can I handle this in a way that mitigates risk?
Then we act in a way that’s best for the situation. We have all the necessary information to effectively solve the problem and behave well.
It’s a healthy thought pattern to identify, rationalize, then act. It’s also high emotional IQ.
I went to group therapy where therapist where treating people with depression using a formula like this. I discovered because of my schizophrenia I naturally do it very well.
At first this takes a conscious effort. But if we consciously identify our emotions, rationalize our emotions, then act, this will become very natural to us. Overtime we will subconsciously do it, and we won’t realize we do it.