I’ve made the right connections in my working life by selflessly supporting the right people’s causes.
I never asked for more money until I was well established, and gained enough business knowledge to have my own cause which supported the larger cause.
Most of my life I was under payed, but I grew leaps, and bounds. I got all kinds special benefits from bosses.
Most people are self entitled. They only care about themselves, how much money they make, their breaks, and fairness. They’re paranoid of management, and their use of them.
Most of the time they never get called on. They never standout.
Businesses are large teams, and managers are leaders who get paid for their performance. It can mean a lot if someone gets behind their cause, and makes them look good.
The status quo is safe, secure, reliable. It works a steady job with normalize returns.
The status quo maintains things. Corporate culture loves it because companies are to big to take risk. There’s too much at risk, and a lot of money that can be lost.
The status quo is protection against risks of being wrong because everyone agrees this is normalized returns. If they change things it leads to uncertainty.
Nothing about entrepreneurship is status quo because everything is uncertain. Startups are kind of wild cards.
Entrepreneurship isn’t a generalized practice, and people don’t talk about businesses that blend in with normalcy.
Entrepreneurs put it all on the line. They don’t have a safety nets, and they run into make or break deals where they may risk it all. There’s no reward without taking risk because normalized returns don’t exist.
There’s a thin line between crazy, and a successful entrepreneur. It’s divided by their track record.
We can be a large fish in a small pond, and jump over to a very large pond, and be a small fish.
The more people depend on us the bigger the fish we become. The bigger we get the more the government leans on us for tax money. The more workers count on use for paychecks. The more charity’s look to us for donations.
When all that happens we become powerful, influencel, and earn the title big fish.
When the big fish depend on us we become massive size fish.
I’ve always tried to add value to others in hopes of becoming a big fish oneday.
When it comes to products, and services the market doesn’t care.
The market never bothered to look at your GPA, or your history as class President.
The market doesn’t care if you went to Harvard, or you didn’t graduate high school.
It doesn’t care how old, or young you are.
It doesn’t care if you’re black, white yellow or brown.
Only emplors care about that stuff.
The market cares about your product or service.
Does it work?
Will it work for me?
Is it affordable?
Is it easy to use?
Will I be better of after I purchase the product or service?
Can I make a profit with the product, or service?
The market totally cares about the substance of your product. The rest is trivial.
The statement “I don’t know” can be liberating for me. It’s a learned skill, that’s in high demand. It take real confidence to say I don’t know.
Sometimes we’re expected to know everything, and we can make statements like “let me look into it, and I’ll get back with you.” Which is very trust worthy.
It’s intellectual honesty.
That statement I don’t know gets people who know involved, because poeple whom know a lot about something often jump at the opportunity to tell you, or show you what they know.
The person that jumps at the opportunity feels valued and is more willing to preform their very best. A strong leader can lead the very best people by saying “I don’t know, but I trust you to know.”
When it comes to a very serious decision where we have to live with the longterm consequences. “I don’t know” enables us to consult with an expert, and do research.
Don’t undervalue all the benefits of saying I don’t know.
Many of use want to help people. As a self proclaimed leader I want to help people be at their best.
But I can only help people so much because I can’t possibly have all skills to teach. Which not knowing everything is a skill in itself.
It’s like helping people financially. You can’t give people money if you don’t have money to give. You can’t help people perform well by giving them skills you don’t possess.
Helping people makes us influential, and a leader. We have to lead our companies and teams to win games.
I challenge you to know yourself, and what you do well.
Once we know the skills we have in our inventory. We can begain to teach, gain influence, and gain trust from our teams.
We tell ourselves story’s. Theses storylines can hurt use or help us. We can consume them like a prescription that treats or mental state of mind.
Here’s a list of story’s that we tell ourselves that aren’t good for use.
- I can’t do this
- I don’t belong here
- Bad things always happen to me
- These people aren’t like me
- I can’t wait
Thes things drive us nuts. When we consume these drugs we lose control of our situation.
These prescriptions dictated how we feel. We look for evidence to support them so that the story’s true. These story’s we tell ourselves make us feel bad.
Here’s a flip on these story’s we tell ourselves that make use feel better, if we look for evidence to support them; so that we believe them. Our mental state will be much better.
- (I can’t do this) I have difficulty doing this, but I can do these parts very we. I can seek help on the one problem I have difficulty with. So I know I can do it. All the evidence supports it.
- (I don’t belong here) This place has some unique features. The people here live with these issues, and if can survive here I can learn a new skill. I’ll can learn.
- (Bad things always happen to me) I’m a smart person and I know that everything that happens isn’t always bad. I remember when this, this, and this happened; and it they where good things.
- (These people aren’t like me) These people are people. I’m a person too. They may have a little different mindset. But they are successful in these areas. It would be interesting to see how they did it.
- (I can’t wait) If i wait I can prepare. I can have this and this out of the way. When it does get here I’ll make the most out of it because I have the obstacles out-of-the-way.
There’s prescriptions help use cope with our difficulties. They give us a more stable mental health, and power of ourselves.
These flips on my story’s have helped me stay sane when I thought I couldn’t take anymore. I was able to bare things that for most people would be unbearable.
The past two weeks I was in a inpatient program where all my needs were met. I spent time with some very good people in a group setting without a phone, and pressures of the outside world.
I spent this time in self reflection, and focus on mental health of others and myself. I learned what was important and what was not. Also I learned a lot about myself.
In a group setting some amazing things happened. In our Groups we all came together to work on ourselves, and others. We experienced many different perspectives for me different backgrounds. We blended it all together and we started healing very quick.
Many were at the end of their rope, myself included. Within a couple days we turned around very. Then group became a social setting. Then most of use emerged much stronger.
I highly recommend group type therapy, with people we can relate to. Also checking out from our high stress world from time to time.